Being a new bride can be one of the most stressful things in adult life. You wouldn’t think it, seeing as weddings are supposed to be happy and a celebration, but it’s true! And if you’re overcome with anxiety over your big day right now, you’re not the only one feeling this way.
Indeed, it’s easier than ever to turn into a ‘bridezilla’ in the run up to your wedding, thanks to just how much choice that can go into wedding planning these days. Again, while that sounds like a good thing, it can add a whole new dimension of worry to your plate.
So many things can go wrong. So many things might not be delivered. So many guests might miss their flight or get sick just before they’re due to turn up. Right up until the moment you say ‘I do’, you’re going to be worried about something ruining your celebration!
That’s why it’s crucial to understand the stress involved in this process. Whether you’re the bride or groom looking to understand the way you feel, or you’re a concerned loved one who wants to know how to approach this kind of conversation, here are some things to think about.
Weddings Cost a Lot!
The number one reason a wedding can turn perfectly lovely, pleasant people into those of the ‘zilla’ kind! Weddings tend to be very expensive, from buying the ring to paying the DJ, photographer, and caterers at the end of the day.
Indeed, many weddings cost over $10,000 these days, and most cost upwards of $20,000, which is a lot of money to spend on a one-time event. As far as financial sense goes, it’s hard to justify a big wedding with all the party favors you can imagine, even though they’ll help make your big day be perfect.
You and Your Partner Can Disagree
At its core, only you and your partner are the people involved in the wedding planning. You might like to take input from friends, and you might have some family traditions you want to carry on, but you two have the final say on what happens. And that can lead to some arguments!
Depending on the way you’ve envisioned your wedding day, this could be a big argument. You might not agree on the location, who’s invited, or how the course of the day should proceed. Having this much tension with your future spouse so close to the big day can even lead to some confusing, negative feelings. So many possibilities can run through your head and that’s only going to stress you out more!
Disagreements Can Feel a Lot More Dramatic
Does a bridesmaid not quite like the dress palette you’ve chosen? Does your mother in law think the veil is a bit too long? Is your partner having a little trouble writing their own vows? If it was any other day of the year, these things probably wouldn’t bother you.
But seeing as they’re all coinciding during the wedding planning, the fallout from them can be ten times more dramatic. Indeed, it’s not just your partner you can disagree with. But if you’re already disagreeing with them on something and then a member of the wedding party speaks up about something else, you might just want to drop it all and scream.
Weddings are Just One Day - That Means the Pressure is on!
You’re feeling the pressure to make your wedding the kind to end all weddings. It needs to be a huge, perfect celebration, right? That’s what a lot of people end up thinking, and that can lead to some people becoming very hostile and precise regarding wedding matters.
You’ve got one day to get it right. Except, if anything goes wrong, you can always have another, more private ceremony some other time. Remember, you can save your vows however you wish, and your big day can come in any form you want it to. If this is the main thing bothering you, that’s how to let it go.
Wedding day stress is hard to shift. When you’re feeling the pressure and like you want to shout and scream at anyone who wants to come near, take some time to yourself. A wedding doesn’t have to be perfect because of the way it’s planned; as long as it’s a happy day, you’re surrounded by love, and you make some amazing memories, it’s going to be the wedding you always dreamed of.